Is Trying to live up to your potential holding you back?

Is trying to live up to your potential actually holding you back?

This was a recurring theme & question at the event I held this weekend here in San Diego. So many of the women in my life are highly ambitious, intelligent, confident women who- how shall I say this nicely- know what they want & always somehow make it happen.

But it’s a double edged sword ⚔️ at times, because the quest to keep visioning, keeping living up to what’s possible, keep growing, often will come at a cost.

Becoming disconnected from our bodies or our relationships.

Becoming disconnected from our values & what’s really important.

Trying so hard to live up to what we know we can do.... even if- gasp- we don’t even want to.

Some say it’s a generational thing- and in some areas it is- but I beg to differ. I think it’s become a human thing.

While I could write a whole book about this (and have started) it seems we’ve somehow become mildly 😉 obsessed with tying our worthiness to our potential to our success to our happiness to our.... so many things, that somewhere in the mix, our FULFILLMENT has become lost & hidden in the chaos.

I’m not talking the type of fulfillment that checks all the boxes & looks great in your year end review- instead I’m talking the type of fulfillment where you end each day knowing you gave it your all to the things that most matter & feel utterly satisfied in the process.

Then maybe the goal or the vision or the finish line you know you can make happen (it always does) doesn’t even matter, but instead it’s about who you became in the process.

See- you could of course ‘potentially’ be so many things, and so many people are trying to sell you so many ways to get there.

But what I’m more interested in is: 

Do you actually want it, or NEED it?

Are you willing to do what it REALLY takes to get there?

Are you willing to FAIL?

Even more scary, are you willing to SUCCEED?

And ultimately, are you doing this for YOU, or some version of you you think you should be?

You already know the answers. We always do. But admitting them might change things- even if we keep saying we want change 🤷‍♀️

So where has your grasp on potential actually been holding you back? 👑

Jennifer Blackstock